"I feel sad and worthless. I can't seem to get myself going. I feel like crying all the time for no reason at all it seems. Why do I feel so bad?"
"The kids are just barely out of the house and all of a sudden my parents need me more than ever. Is this what they mean by the sandwich generation?? When will I ever have time for me?"
"I hate myself. I want to make friends but I just can't seem to do it. Why would anyone want to be my friend anyway?"
Loss & Mourning
"Since my partner passed away I feel completely lost. I don't know how to go on."
Family of origin
"I have never understood why I haven't been able to have a healthy relationship. My parents always fought and my relationships have looked like their's. I want something better for myself."
"I notice I can't do what I used to do. I sometimes panic as I realize I have more time behind me than ahead of me. I don't like how alone that makes me feel."
"Sometimes our problems seem insurmountable: money, kids, the house, sex... I don't want a divorce, but I am worried we won't find a way out of all these difficulties."
"We argue about money all the time. I need to manage it properly and s/he just spends and spends. In the end neither one of us are satisfied with our financial life."
"I was cheated on once and now I worry when s/he gets calls and I don't know who is calling. I am never sure who s/he is on line with. How do I learn to trust again?"
"My opinions and contributions in this couple are not respected. I never feel heard. It's always their way or the highway."
"Ever since the baby was born, she doesn't want to have sex anymore. She is too tired, the baby is crying, I don't get it, we used to really enjoy each other."
Changes in the family
"We used to be a family that spent a lot of time together. Since the kids have gotten older, we don't do anything fun any more. There is either a lot of yelling or a lot of silence."
"Mom has been acting funny, forgetting things, losing things. She is not her old self anymore. I am worried dementia may be setting in but I don't know what to do or who to call. I am overwhelmed with the amount of care she seems to need now."
"When we met and he told me he had two children, I never thought it would be a problem. Since we moved in together, I feel like I'm the bad guy - to everyone! What have I gotten myself into?"
"Our daughter is 29 years old and still living at home. It's not that we can't afford it, or that we don't like having her around from time to time, but I am worried that her living at home stops her from living her life as an adult."
Working with elderly clients who have lost or are losing their autonomy, are suffering from Alzheimer's or vascular dementia, who have been institutionalized, or are facing the prospect, Heidi's experience and understanding can help you navigate this difficult passage in life. Whether you have questions about your self, or a loved one, Heidi has the experience to help you.
Heidi periodically hosts seminars on Menopause and Perimenopause. These seminars are for women only, and are held for groups of 10 to 20 women. Please see the Resources page for information on Enlightening Dialogues for Women.